The Ending of Your Teen’s Life

“In my ending is my beginning.” — T.S. Eliot

Boulder, CO

The start of a new year is a perfect opportunity to start new things. It is one of the reasons New Year’s Resolutions are so popular. There is energy, excitement and the thrill of the unknown when starting something new. The very process of learning or doing something new for the first time possess astounding potency to captivate our attention. Yet most resolutions see little to no follow-through.

Follow-through requires work and perseverance and determination. The thrill of the unknown is gone and all that is left is the reality of how much more work is left to be done.

Parents experience the novelty and excitement of having a young child. There is so much to learn for both parent and child. A child’s excitement about learning is contagious, and many new parents strive to learn how to be “good” parents. These satisfying feelings can last through to the pre-teen years. This is due, in large part, to kids and parents settling into a comfortable routine that works for everyone.

But then the pre-teen and teen years come and all bets are off. Many parents lose their interest in replaying the “terrible twos” as the “terrible teens”. They get into the mindset of when will this be over. Yet this is one of the most crucial times for parents to influence their children. It’s an opportunity not to be lost.

Adulthood comes faster than we can ever imagine. The decisions our children start to make in their teen years can and often do spill over into their adult lives. Our children are already a dozen decisions into adulthood before they or we even realize it. This is why parental follow-through is so important when it comes to the teen years.

It is incredibly easy for parents to slip into indifference, during this pivotal period of a child’s life. A sense of hopelessness can overcome parents as the their children spread their wings and test the boundaries. This is when determination and perseverance, the hallmarks of follow-through are most needed. Your children are about to cross the threshold to adulthood. It is possibly your last opportunity to influence them in a meaningful way.

As we start the new year I challenge you to think about how to end this most crucial phase of your child’s life — making the transition from child to adult. Once your children are out of your house, literally of figuratively, then their decisions are theirs and theirs alone. Make the effort to guide your children in a positive direction. Resolve to follow-through as a parent and show your children, in anyway you can, how every decision they make today influences the direction their lives will take tomorrow.

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Parenting is a “Game” of Confidence

“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.” — Arthur Ashe

Boulder, CO

Parenting is not a game. However, it is best undertaken, if approached like a game.

Take golf for instance, or any sport for that matter, there is always an objective. There are rules. There is always an opponent or opponents. The object of golf, for example, is to get a small white ball in a plastic cup in as few strokes as possible. The opponents are not other golfers, as you might expect, but the course and the golfer herself.  There are both external and internal hazards. The golfer most continually way the rewards of any given shot or course of action against the risks. She must muster her inner strength, her confidence, her poise, her grace, in order to keep her emotions, her mind and herself in check in order to play the best round of golf she can.

In a phrase she must be emotionally strong.

Her emotional strength, or confidence, stems from a few key components of her game.

  • First, she has developed and honed skills through hours of practice.
  • Second, for every course she plays she develops a game plan. She has a strategy for how to play a particular course, for how to play every hole and ultimately how to play every shot.
  • Third, she has a routine that she goes through before every shot to keep her mind focused on that one shot. Her routine keeps her present and on the task.

If one of these components is not properly attended to or executed, then the golfer risks performing below her potential.

Parenting works much the same way.

Parents should have an objective, or result in mind, when raising their children. For me it is raising a happy and, what Wayne Dyer calls, a no-limits person. There are also rules to parenting. There are legal obligations as well as guidelines, you might say, for parent-child relationships. There are certainly challenges and hazards, both internal and external, that must be contended with, avoided and overcome. There are trade offs, risks and rewards, for every course action pursued. The parent must muster her inner strength, her confidence, her poise, her grace, in order to keep her emotions, her mind and herself in check in order to be the best parent she can be.

In short, parents need emotional strength to perform at their best.

Just like a golfer or head coach or a quarterback, parents can develop their confidence and improve their performance by employing many of the same techniques.

  • First, practice. That’s right, practice being a parent. Role play with your spouse or friends with children the same age. Get coaching or attend seminars or courses on parenting.
  • Second, have a game plan or overall parenting strategy. What is it that you want for your children? Keep in mind that children respond differently as they age, so be prepared. Think of a golfer. A golfer carries 14 clubs in her bag – drivers, fairway woods, irons, wedges, putters. They use the different clubs for different shots or challenges. You must have a bag of parenting “clubs” with which to approach the different challenges you face with your teen.
  • Third, have a pre-shot routine. Don’t leave it to chance that you will be able to respond to your children as you’d like too. Create a routine for yourself that you can use when confronted with, for a lack of a better phrase, an out-of-control teen. Golfers use a pre-shot routine before every shot. This may be excessive for every interaction with your teen, but you do need one and you need to practice it. It will save you big time, especially when under pressure.

Emotional Strength is not something that some people have and others don’t. It is a skill you can develop, hone and bring to bear when you need it most. Sure, we all handle emotionally tough situations differently. That doesn’t mean that you can’t learn to better control how you respond under pressure or not. 

Parenting, like golf, or any sport, is, first and foremost, a “game” of confidence. Following the steps above will help you become more emotionally strong. They will help you raise your children with confidence, despite the hazards and challenges you’ll face along the way.

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Thanksgiving 2012 – Gratitude, Abundance and the Divine

Greetings!

My name is Henry Beyer and today is Thanksgiving. Most people I know have a favorite holiday. For some it’s Halloween, for others it’s the 4th of July or Christmas or New Years. They all have their reasons. For me it is Thanksgiving. This has not always been the case though.

From early adolescence into adulthood I suffered from a limiting belief. I believed that there was only so much to go around. I had a scarcity mindset. I was prone to comparing what other people had to what I had or didn’t have. I often found myself experiencing an overwhelming feeling of lack.

Then in my mid-thirties this started to change. I learned about gratitude and the power of giving thanks for all the things and people I had in my life…

And sure enough my life began to change.

For a period of about six months, with Anthony Robbins echoing in my head, I would take a 20 minute walk every morning. I would give thanks for everything and everyone I had in my life. Not long after that I got a new job and moved to a new town.

In short I changed my life.

That is the power of Gratitude. That is the power giving thanks for all we have in our lives. Gratitude is a pathway to the unlimited abundance of the universe. Instead of focusing on lack and all that is wrong with our lives, Gratitude places our attention on all that is right and good. This shift reveals the abundance of our world and universe.

I recently read a short book about the life of Jesus Christ and the message he brought:

 “The Kingdom of God is within you.”

The abundance of the universe is our birth right if we just believe. All you desire is within you now. The abundance of the universe is waiting for you to accept it into you life.

For me this is the gift of Thanksgiving – a day for giving thanks. It reminds us to give thanks for all that we have. When we do this we open ourselves to receiving the abundance of the universe. That which is our divine right, if we only believe.

My wish for you is that you take a private moment today to connect with your higher self and give thanks for the abundance in your life. Warmest wishes on this special day from my family to yours.

Happy Thanksgiving!

The Beyer Family

 

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Don’t Be Lazy With Language

Whatever you think will manifest in your life.” — U.S. Andersen

Boulder, CO

Most of us think in words. Yet many of us fail to recognize how powerful these words and thoughts really are. Among other things, how and what we think, as well as the language we use everyday, dramatically and directly effects our emotional flexibility.

Emotional flexibility is the ability to vary emotions in any given circumstance. But how exactly does it work? Unlike other animals, as humans we have the capacity to control our emotions. When a dog is happy, he’s happy and he wags his tail. When he is ready for a fight he snarls. You and I, however, can choose how to feel at any given moment. We can do this in two ways:

  • By controlling how we move our bodies

or

  • By controlling how we think.

Since most of us think in words, the quality of our vocabulary has a significant effect on our emotional lives. A limited and homogenous vocabulary can only express itself in handful of ways. As a result, emotional understanding and expression are severely diminished. While a vast and differentiated vocabulary permits precise, vivid and meaningful self-expression.

The more fluent we become with our own language, the more emotional flexibility we have. The more we develop emotional flexibility, the more we control our lives. Our thoughts, especially the ones we focus on regularly, manifest in our lives. If you think about oranges, you’ll get oranges; if you think about bananas, then you’ll get bananas. Similarly if you think about hate, you’ll get hate in your life; if you think about love, then you’ll get love.

Jim Rohn said, “Don’t be lazy with language.”

If we are lazy with our thoughts and our words, then we have a chaotic life. If we are careful and disciplined to only choose positive thoughts, but are lazy with the words we choose to express them, then we have a frustrated and confused life. Only when we are disciplined about the thoughts we choose and are selective with the words we use can create a rich, vibrant and happy life.

Here are a few ideas for developing emotional flexibility:

  • Improve your emotional vocabulary – Click Here For List
  • Don’t overstate or understate how you are feeling
  • Use language to intensify or lessen your emotional response. This may seem like it contradicts the previous suggestion, however language is a powerful tool that can help you change how and what you’re feeling by choosing different words to express yourself
  • Breath
  • Listen with the intent of listening not responding. Then reflect back what you heard to be sure you understand.

Jim Rohn said, “Don’t be lazy with language.” Use it to manifest what you want in your life and to increase your emotional flexibility.

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It’s GOOD to be YOU

“Do not try to be anything but what you are, and try to do that perfectly.” — St. Francis de Sales

Boulder, CO

Everyday we are bombarded by advertisements. They suggest to us how we should look, what we should wear, what car to drive. Unless you live in a house with no television and no radio, and you never leave your house, it is virtually impossible not to be exposed to some level of advertising every day.

Many of us have discovered the joy of the DVR or Digital Video Recorder. The DVR is a testament to human ingenuity. It records television shows, which you can then watch later and fast forward through the commercials. Unfortunately, this system is limited to what you can record. It cannot help with all the other advertisements and influences that clog our auditory and visual senses every moment of everyday.

The system we naturally have works much like a DVR, yet is far superior. When functioning properly, it receives information and discards what’s irrelevant. Sadly though, many of us have faulty systems. We’ve become so accustomed to getting validation of who we are from the outside world that we have lost FAITH in ourselves. We’ve lost the capacity to make choices for ourselves. We look to advertisers and the external world to tell us who we should be.

Mental resilience is our built-in DVR. As we receive information — good, bad or indifferent — it helps us choose what to pay attention to and what to skip. It helps us choose the thoughts we want to focus on. In other words, mental resilience helps us think good instead of evil. When it feels like the entire world is against you, mental resilience helps you see the good instead of the bad. Mental resilience helps you persevere when faced with the worlds doubt and cynicism and negativity.

In a nutshell, mental resilience is faith and belief in yourself despite what the outside world or circumstances might be telling you.

Remember, there is only one of you in the entire world. There has never been anyone like you and there never will be. Just as there has never been anyone like me and never will be.

YOU ARE UNIQUE! JUST AS I AM UNIQUE!

That it is why it is so important to be yourself. That is why it is so important to NOT try and be anything but who you are. Mental resilience, perseverance, and faith all mean and do the same thing. They help you stay true to yourself.

“Do not try to be anything but what you are…” 

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A Responsive Mind is a Disciplined Mind.

“Self-discipline is a form of freedom. Freedom from laziness and lethargy, freedom from the expectations and demands of others, freedom from weakness and fear—and doubt.” — H.A. Dorfman, The Mental ABCs of Pitching

Boulder, CO

In Marine Corps bootcamp, the last thing we did every night before bed was to say this out loud, “Discipline is the instant willing obedience to orders, respect for authority, and self-reliance, Sir!” Now that may seem extreme or sound like brainwashing to some of you, maybe most of you, but I think that is because it is framed with a military backdrop.

If you frame that one phrase in terms of your own life it can maximize your success.

Discipline is a word that brings up many different meanings for most people. A lot of them are negative. Yet, I suspect there is at least one person who you secretly admire because of his (or her) ability to stick to just about anything. That’s Discipline.

A great fear and misconception about discipline, is that it eliminates your freedom, your spontaneousness. I would argue that it does the opposite. Discipline lets you be more spontaneous and have more freedom. Lets say you commit to getting exercise, or losing weight, or learning a language. Those things wont happen on their own. They take time, energy, and dedication.

The disciplined individual will do his language lesson before going out with friends because of the commitment he’s made to himself. Discipline helps him take care of his responsibilities first; then he can go out without that nagging little voice in the back of his head. Discipline allows him to be himself and to be more spontaneous when he is out, because he is not worrying about what he should be doing. He’s already done it.

Discipline is just another way of saying that you know how to master yourself.

Now Imagine you are two people. One of you is the boss and the other is the worker. As the boss you come up with a plan of what to do. You decide on the result you want and how to get it. As the worker you execute the plan. As the boss you are the authority and you give the orders. As the worker you obey the orders and you respect your own authority.

Discipline is the instant, willing obedience to orders: As the boss you have given yourself the order to learn a new language. As the worker, if you are disciplined, you willingly and instantly obey this order. You don’t waste time wondering whether or not it’s a good idea. You take action. You immediately begin to execute to achieve the desired result.

Discipline is respect for authority: As the boss you expect respect from yourself. You want to learn a new language and you expect yourself to follow-thru. As the worker when you follow-thru, you feel good about yourself. You build your self-confidence and your self-esteem every time you take action towards your goals.

Discipline is self-reliance: As the boss you rely on yourself to stick with learning a new language. As the worker, you rely on yourself to take the necessary actions to get it done. You are not dependent on outside forces, outside rewards to stay on task. The task itself and the feeling of accomplishment are reward enough.

This is how a disciplined mind creates a responsive mind. There is no wasted energy or time. Orders are given and action is taken.

As you expand this idea to your career, to parenting, or to relationships, the benefits remain the same. Discipline is founded in your conviction to achieve a certain outcome. Whether that is getting a promotion, spending more time with your children, or deepening your relationships, discipline lets you respond more openly and quickly, because you are following the orders you have given yourself.

These commitments can tyrannize us without discipline. When we fail to meet our commitments to ourselves and others, we feel guilty. Our confidence and self-esteem are eroded. We become enchained and immobilized by our own bad feelings. Without discipline our responsiveness grinds to a halt.

No one can control your behavior except yourself. When you learn to obey yourself, respect yourself, and rely on yourself, you bolster your self-confidence, increase your self-esteem, and strengthen your self-discipline. You respond to the challenges of your life instantly and willing. As a result you lead a more fulfilled, spontaneous, and freer life.

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What Secret do Tiger Woods, Friedrich Nietzsche, and Mister Miyagi have in common?

“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” — Anonymous

Boulder, CO

Tiger Woods, Friedrich Nietzsche and Mister Miyagi all understand that to be great, to perform great deeds, to fly, we must first learn to stand, then walk, then run. To learn to do these things doesn’t take any special skill or innate talent. We all have learned to do them. What it does take is a strong mind.

I watch in amazement as my son learns to do these things. He doesn’t get discouraged because he can’t do them. He keeps trying, over and over again. With each effort he gets a little better. Sometimes it seems like he is actually getting worse rather than better. Then one day, he does something he’s never done before.

My son doesn’t think about having a strong mind, he just has one. We all did when we were his age. Somewhere along the way we lost it. Now we are afraid to fail, whereas my son has no concept of failure. He just somehow understands that to get better, he must keep trying.

On Memorial Day 2012, Tiger Woods holed a green side chip shot on hole #16 that helped propel him to victory. It was his 73 tour win and brought him into a tie with Jack Nicklaus for PGA Tour victories. Jack Nicklaus, the founder and host of the Memorial Tournament, said it could have been the most difficult shot he’d seen in the thirty-six year history of the tournament, which he founded in 1976.

In the movie The Karate Kid, Daniel asks Mister Miyagi to teach him karate. What does Mister Miyagi do? He has Daniel-san paint his fence, paint his house and wax his car — wax on, wax off. ”What does that have to do with learning karate,” Daniel asked?

Friedrich Nietzsche knew something about it. He wrote,

“He who would learn to fly one day must first learn to stand and walk and run and climb and dance; one cannot fly into flying.”

To execute the shot that Tiger holed, or to beat Johnny from the Kobra Kai as Daniel-san did, or to fly, it is necessary to first learn to stand, then walk, then run. More than that, we must believe that we can do these things. Belief provides the inspiration to get up and try again. This belief is governed by the same forces that propel my son to keep getting up after he falls down. These forces are often referred to as a Growth Mindset and a Mastery Orientation. They are key components to a strong mind.

Individuals with a Growth Mindset believe that they can get better. They believe that with hard work, determination and sometimes a little luck (for good measure) that they can continually improve. They are not afraid of failure. In fact they see failure as a right of passage to the shores of success. It is the Japanese idea of Kaizen – daily, incremental steps to improvement. Or what Anthony Robbins calls CANI — Constant And Never-ending Improvement. To get better, to improve ourselves, we must first believe that we can get better.

Individuals with a Mastery Orientation participate in an activity for the sake of the activity itself and the enjoyment of trying to improve. They “have as their primary incentive a desire to learn, improve, and excel,” writes Dr. Gio Valiante, the author of Fearless Golf.

“To put it simply, you practice diligently, but you practice primarily for the sake of the practice itself.”
Mastery – The Keys to Success and Long-term Fulfillment
by George Leonard

This is of course where many of us find ourselves off the path and in the weeds. We want the rewards without the effort. Or we don’t believe in ourselves; we doubt our ability to achieve that which we desire. We lack a Growth Mindset and a Mastery Orientation.

Tiger Woods holed his shot, Daniel beat Johnny and we all have learned to walk because because of our strong minds. Unfortunately, some of us now find ourselves in the weeds. Luckily, it is easy to find our way clear of them. If we adopt a Growth Mindset and a Mastery Orientation, which are both learnable skills, we can invigorate our strong minds once again. Apply this thinking to your parenting, to your career, to your relationships and you will reap the rewards.

Michael Jordan said, “Do the work. The rewards will follow.”

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Sherlock Holmes Vs. What You See Is All There Is

“The lowest and vilest alleys in London do not present a more dreadful record of sin than does the smiling and beautiful countryside.” – The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes

Boulder, CO

Look at this picture. What do you see?

Teenagers Pictures, Images and Photos

If you’re like most people, you said something like, “I see a kid who is not listening to me. She doesn’t care what I have to say.”

What I see is a girl looking down and away with her cheek in her hand.

What’s the difference? The difference is between seeing something subjectively versus objectively. I described what I saw. I didn’t apply any meaning to it. I didn’t interpret the posture. If you answered like most people do. You answered subjectively — you interpreted what you saw.

Often, what we see is deceiving.

WYSIATI What You See Is All There Is is what behavioral psychologist Daniel Kahneman might call a mind trap. In technical jargon it’s called representativeness. Representativeness describes our willingness to judge events by how they appear rather than by how likely they are. In other words, we jump to conclusions based on limited data. This is a particular sticky situation for parents and teens.

When one or the other, parent or teen, fabricate conclusions based on WYSIATI, then miscommunication and misunderstanding prevail. A teen finds something misplaced in his room and immediately assumes his parents have been snooping. A teen comes home late and the parents immediately jump on her, diving into a lecture about responsibility. Neither bother to uncover what really happened. Both jump to conclusions on limited data.

Meaning is obscured and communication is imperfect.

Sherlock Holmes, could be considered the antithesis of WYSIATI. He probed and questioned to discover what was below the surface. He understood that appearances and words are too often misleading. Like the pastoral countryside versus the squalor of the inner city, both have their secrets. As humans, we are not transparent. We hide things. We hide our true thoughts, our true feelings. We also infuse our experiences and biases into every situation. What you understand is not necessarily what I understand, even when we are looking at or hearing the same thing.

Reflect understanding to clarify meaning.

To adequately understand what is going on with another person we must be like Sherlock Holmes. We must have a flexible mind that seeks first to understand. This is so crucial as a parent, because we want to open doors to allow communication to flow. Too often though we unwittingly close doors because we assume we know what our children are thinking. We don’t bother to listen to what they’re saying, or not saying. We don’t bother to first check our understanding by reflecting back what we think we know.

Flexible thinking requires active listening.

Flexible thinkers strive to see things from multiple angles. They avoid getting trapped in WYSIATI. They acknowledge and accept the imperfectness of communication and seek avenues to improve their understanding. They reflect back meaning to see if they understand correctly. Despite their biases, flexible thinkers seek objective understanding.

So let me ask you again. What do you see?

sad looking girl Pictures, Images and Photos

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How to Be the “Iron Man” of Parenting

“Hope of dishonest gain is the beginning of loss.”

Tuesday, 9:05 a.m.
Boulder, CO

On September 5th, 1995 Cal Ripken, Jr., affectionately known as “Iron Man”, broke Lou Gerhig’s 56 year record by playing in his 2,131st consecutive professional baseball game. He then went on to play another 501 consecutive games before voluntarily breaking his streak of 2,632 consecutive games. Cal Ripken didn’t miss a Major League Baseball baseball game for 17 years. How many of us can say that we have done anything for 17 years and not missed a day?

So, what does it take to have that level of staying power? Among other things, and without putting words into Cal Ripken’s mouth, the ability to show up every day starts with a resilient body. When we feel weak, listless and sickly, it is easy to be overwhelmed by the slightest wrench in our day. When we feel strong, vibrant and healthy our outlook is much different. We feel…

Invincible!

If you have trouble getting out of bed or off the couch, then how do you ever expect to keep pace with your teenager(s)? Teens naturally have resilient bodies. It is a hallmark of the age. For us parents it’s a different story. I’ll be in my mid- to late 50s when my son hits his teenage years. If I don’t take care of myself now, I want to be able to do the things I want to with him. I must continually work to keep myself fit, flexible and resilient, or else I’ll be a spectator in my son’s life.

To create the resilient body we need to be active participants in our children’s lives we must do two things:

First, physical conditioning must be a MUST. It can’t be a should. We must resist the many forces pulling us in all directions. Regardless of business trips, vacations, set-backs, what have you, showing up and getting vigorous exercise regularly — and by regularly I mean at least 3 days a week — has to be a must. If it is not a must, it wont happen.

Second, we must learn to manage our energy. For Cal Ripken to not miss a game in 17 years, he had to be highly disciplined in what he did and did not do. He had to consciously choose how he spent his time, but more importantly how he spent his eneryg. Once you’ve decided that to be engaged with your children is preferable to watching from a far, you must make the same choice. What parts of your life are unnecessarily sucking up time and energy.  On some level, Cal Ripken always weighed the desire to be in the game against whatever forces were pulling him away from it. If the cost was to high or the risk to great, he would simply say, “No.”

Being physically resilient will help you keep stride with the challenges and activities you face at work, with your family, as well as with your goals and aspirations. You may not always feel a 100%, that is just not a reality, but resiliency keeps you from getting completely pulled under and, eventually, it brings you back to the surface.

17 to 18 years is what we have with our kids before they’re off. The best way to influence your children is to connect with them at their level. You must engage them where they are. Whether it’s hoops in the back yard, going to concerts, helping with their homework or listening to their stories, that’s where you need to be. That’s what they need from you. When you make that effort, then your children will turn to you when they really need it. Cal Ripken didn’t miss a game in 17 years. Don’t let your resistance keep you from doing the same — engage and connect with your teen(s).

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FORD Your Way to a MORE Responsive Body

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving.” — Albert Einstein

Wednesday, 8:35 a.m.
Boulder, CO

I imagine we all want a body that does what we want when we want it. Like a car that has responsive handling, that let’s you feel the road. When we don’t take care of our cars, the steering and suspension get loose, they no longer respond like they once did. A trip to the mechanic can fix these problems. This is regular maintenance. If we let them go too long, then our car breaks down.

Our bodies function in much the same way. However, we get stiffer and less mobile, rather than loose, when we don’t take care of ourselves. This can happen when we push ourselves too hard. We go for a ten mile run or play tennis all day, for example, even though we haven’t exercised in months… or years in some cases. What does our body do? It stiffens up and our muscles become sore. We wind up not being able to move at all. The same thing happens, when we exercise too little or not at all; we spend all day sitting just to get home and sit some more. We feel creaky.

A responsive body is created through discovering the right balance of activity and rest. We all have different goals for what we want physically. For some it is to look good in our swim suit; for others it is to lose some pounds so we can fit into our favorite pair of jeans. Maybe some of you want to take an “active” vacation, like mountain biking in Scotland, or maybe your training for your first marathon.

Whatever your goals, finding the right balance between activity and rest is paramount to your success.

FORD… Fix Or Repair Daily… is a useful acronym I learned recently. It can help you find your balance and reach your exercise goals. F… O… R… D is a simple reminder and it works in three ways:

First, FORD reminds us to become aware of what our body is telling us:

“Is that pain in my ankle, knee, shoulder or what have you a real injury? Or is it just sore?”

Put another way…

“Are you sore, or are you injured?”

Awareness is the first step to creating a body that responds positively when you ask it too.

Second, FORD is what our body does naturally. Everyday it repairs damaged cells and tissue. The critical role, you and I play is providing our body the opportunity to do just that by…

stretching, icing, massaging, and resting

as well as giving it…

plenty of liquid, proper nutrients, and so on and so forth.

When we fail to do this our body does the best it can with what it has. So to create the responsive body that we want we must provide our body with the proper nutrition, rest and attention it needs.

Three, FORD also reminds us to address the unresolved issues in our lives. We will never function at our best if we let these stressors linger.

They suck energy — literally.

If you have unresolved issues, put them to rest pronto.

Remember, our mind plays tricks on us. It resists all our efforts to improve ourselves. It finds ways to keep us from Fixing Or Repairing Daily. And it has a good argument. Almost no one likes to FORD. It isn’t fun. There is always something else to do. We must become partners with our bodies to create the results we want. Our bodies can’t and wont become responsive on their own.

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