Don’t Be Lazy With Language

Whatever you think will manifest in your life.” — U.S. Andersen

Boulder, CO

Most of us think in words. Yet many of us fail to recognize how powerful these words and thoughts really are. Among other things, how and what we think, as well as the language we use everyday, dramatically and directly effects our emotional flexibility.

Emotional flexibility is the ability to vary emotions in any given circumstance. But how exactly does it work? Unlike other animals, as humans we have the capacity to control our emotions. When a dog is happy, he’s happy and he wags his tail. When he is ready for a fight he snarls. You and I, however, can choose how to feel at any given moment. We can do this in two ways:

  • By controlling how we move our bodies


  • By controlling how we think.

Since most of us think in words, the quality of our vocabulary has a significant effect on our emotional lives. A limited and homogenous vocabulary can only express itself in handful of ways. As a result, emotional understanding and expression are severely diminished. While a vast and differentiated vocabulary permits precise, vivid and meaningful self-expression.

The more fluent we become with our own language, the more emotional flexibility we have. The more we develop emotional flexibility, the more we control our lives. Our thoughts, especially the ones we focus on regularly, manifest in our lives. If you think about oranges, you’ll get oranges; if you think about bananas, then you’ll get bananas. Similarly if you think about hate, you’ll get hate in your life; if you think about love, then you’ll get love.

Jim Rohn said, “Don’t be lazy with language.”

If we are lazy with our thoughts and our words, then we have a chaotic life. If we are careful and disciplined to only choose positive thoughts, but are lazy with the words we choose to express them, then we have a frustrated and confused life. Only when we are disciplined about the thoughts we choose and are selective with the words we use can create a rich, vibrant and happy life.

Here are a few ideas for developing emotional flexibility:

  • Improve your emotional vocabulary – Click Here For List
  • Don’t overstate or understate how you are feeling
  • Use language to intensify or lessen your emotional response. This may seem like it contradicts the previous suggestion, however language is a powerful tool that can help you change how and what you’re feeling by choosing different words to express yourself
  • Breath
  • Listen with the intent of listening not responding. Then reflect back what you heard to be sure you understand.

Jim Rohn said, “Don’t be lazy with language.” Use it to manifest what you want in your life and to increase your emotional flexibility.

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