What to Expect
As with any relationship, sometimes there is chemistry and sometimes not. I have learned from experience that without a strong connection and desire to spend time together, the mentoring process cannot work. If this is the case, I can refer you and your child to other professionals I know in the area — and make sure that you find the support you are seeking.
If there is a connection, I will get to know your child in a way that makes him or her the most comfortable. If he or she likes the outdoors, then hiking, climbing, or some other outdoor activity may be chosen where we can get to know one another. If he or she is more bookish or shy, we might spend some time in a bookstore or the local library, or take slow and easy walks. The mentoring process involves me listening very carefully and openly to what your teenager is saying, and helping him or her to unpack the layers of emotion and uncertainty that can be so difficult to see and to understand.
What Teens Can Expect
My goal isn’t to condemn behavior or even to overtly encourage one kind of behavior over another. It's simply to help teenagers to understand better the emotions that are motivating them. For instance, a teenage boy who is acting out will seldom respond to parents or authority figures simply telling him what to do. But he may respond to someone who has an ear to listen for what is driving the behavior – perhaps fear, perhaps sadness, perhaps insecurity, perhaps something else altogether.
Teens will quickly learn that I am not setting out to make them into anything in particular. My goal is to understand them, and to encourage them to go inward to find the strengths and innate wisdom and intelligence to get what they really want out of life.
What Parents/Caregivers Can Expect
Anything serious that arises, such as life-threatening risk-taking, overt substance abuse, illegal activity, or suicidal ideation/planning will be reported immediately back to the parent/caregiver.
"The distance is nothing; it's only the first step that is difficult. " by Marquise du Deffand
"The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible. " by Arthur C. Clarke